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Commit to bettering yourself

If you can't commit to yourself, how is it possible to Authentically commit to anything else?

How many excuses have you made and dismissed or procrastinated your own priorities? You may not even realize the habit and acceptance of excuses. Are you living in comfort zones & settling for just being "ok"?

To commit to bettering yourself is simple but not always easy. More than likely, you've been programmed to think a certain way over the years. Programmed to simply being "ok"  instead of "better", doing the same "ok" things in life and wondering why you can't get ahead or find true happiness.

Better requires self-discipline/ self-development
Better requires pushing past your comfort zone.
Better requires loyalty.
Better requires leveling up.
Better requires setting goals in life.
Better requires the understanding and conscious effort of living in the moment, not the past nor the future.
You should want and aim to be better than yesterday, even on your toughest days.
Actually, getting through the tough days, proves the better, greater and stronger in you. Wouldn't you agree? Acknowledge it.
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At one point in my life, my carefree spirit, turned into to "my kindness for weakness". A misunderstanding of loyalty.... biting my tongue so I wouldn't hurt feelings, embarrassed that I didn't know enough, tolerating inconsiderate jokes, afraid to disagree, intimidated for no reason & simply confused and shameful because I felt lost.

This was in a broken time of my life, after losing my sister.

What got me through this devastating reality? The pure fact that I Wanted To Get Through It. I didn't want to be depressed or feel alone. I hated feeling shame and confused. I hated the feeling of self-doubt and others judgement over my life. I know hate is a strong word, but I wanted to find myself again. I remember saying to myself many times, "I'm not myself anymore", "I don't know who I am", "I just want to be me again".
What I thought had broken me, actually made me the stronger wiser person I am today.

I made a vow after my sis passed to keep her legacy alive. This vow was the commitment I needed to heal and grow. It wasn't easy, in fact, it took years to get to this place in life. Inspired by my beautiful sister, I stayed committed to bettering myself and helping others along the way.

You can choose to live in the past, depressed about what happened, could've happened or didn't happen. You can choose to look to the future, thinking that's where better will be, feeling anxious and overwhelmed trying to get there. Hard truth in life- you're not promised the future or tomorrow.
You can commit to bettering yourself daily by living in the precious moments, taking deeps breaths and admiring life as you pursue you.

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